Authenticity isn’t just about “being yourself,” it’s about alignment. When your outside matches your inside, relationships deepen, stress reduces, and self-respect grows. For many of us, especially in a fast-paced place like the Bay, it’s easier to say “I’m fine” than admit we’re struggling, even to ourselves. In this post, we explore how therapy can help you recognize when you’re out of sync, and how to begin honoring your true feelings, without guilt, shame, or fear.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in the same arguments or roles at work, in your family, or in your relationships, systems theory can help you understand why. This post explores how a systems lens reveals the patterns shaping your behavior, and how therapy can help you shift them.

Attachment patterns don’t care where we’ve grown up. Whether you find yourself pushing people away or trying too hard to hold them close, these patterns are rooted in the nervous system, not personal failure. In a high-achieving place like the Bay, it’s easy to miss how much early emotional experiences still shape our relationships. This post explores how attachment theory helps us understand our reactions and what healing can look like.

Low desire is often misunderstood as something that needs to be fixed. But in many cases, it's not a dysfunction, it's a message. In this post, we explore how mismatched libido and emotional disconnection can be approached with curiosity rather than shame, and how couples can begin to understand desire through a more compassionate and individualized lens.

Intrusive thoughts can feel alarming, violent images, sexual content, flashes of fear. But these thoughts aren’t proof that something is wrong with you. From a parts work perspective, they often come from overwhelmed parts of the system that are trying to protect you in confusing ways. Through parts work and trauma-informed care, we can explore what your system is trying to protect and begin to heal.

Intimacy isn’t just about sex, it’s about feeling seen, safe, and emotionally close. And yet, even in loving relationships, it’s not uncommon for that closeness to fade. Maybe stress, trauma, or disconnection has crept in over time. Maybe desire feels distant or confusing. This post explores how intimacy can be rebuilt—not through pressure or performance, but through curiosity, safety, and slow reconnection. Whether you're navigating mismatched libidos, emotional distance, or a desire to rediscover pleasure, there are compassionate ways forward.

We all have moments when a part of us takes over, the angry part that lashes out in an argument, the anxious part that can’t stop ruminating on worst-case scenarios, or the perfectionist that pushes past exhaustion. In Internal Family Systems (IFS), we call this being “blended” with a part. When this happens, we lose access to our calm, curious Self. This post explores what it means to get pulled into parts, how to recognize when it's happening, and how to gently return to center without shame.