Pulled into different directions and what to do about it

Have you ever said to yourself, “Part of me wants to rest, but part of me feels guilty”? Or “I know I shouldn’t worry, but I can’t seem to stop”? That internal tug-of-war is more common than most people realize.

Internal Family Systems (IFS) is a type of therapy that helps make sense of these inner conflicts. It starts with a simple idea: our minds are made up of many “parts,” each with its own voice, needs, and story. One part might try to keep you safe by avoiding risk. Another part might push you to succeed at all costs. These parts aren’t signs of being broken — they’re signs of being human.

IFS helps us slow down, get curious, and build relationships with our inner world. Instead of fighting or ignoring the parts of you that feel anxious, angry, or ashamed, IFS invites you to listen to them with compassion. Most of the time, they’re trying to help — even if their strategies no longer work.

This blog will explore the basics of IFS in a down-to-earth way. Whether you're new to therapy or just curious about why you feel the way you do, IFS offers tools to bring more clarity, peace, and balance to your life.

You don’t have to “fix” yourself. You just have to get to know yourself — one part at a time.